I just love when a guy speaks up for the women 'cause the poor little things can't speak for themselves.
I just love when a guy speaks up for the women 'cause the poor little things can't speak for themselves.
Last edited by eachan; November 22nd, 2020 at 11:09 AM.
Pterodactylus (November 22nd, 2020)
?? They did speak.
The snark and toxic tone of threads and posts here has driven many people away over the years. This is a complaint about FPG over at FPN (when it is open). People just don't like the nasty tone and personal turn toward disparagement that threads can take here, especially after about page 2.
Bisquitlips (November 22nd, 2020), mana (November 22nd, 2020)
My other pen is a Montblanc.
And my other blog is a tumblr!
And my latest ebook, for spooky wintery reading:
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I just wanted to put this somewhere but didn't want to begin a thread. It's a screenshot from the whimsical zombie Netflix show Santa Clarita Diet.
I have fond memories of some rollicking good discussions and digressions at fpn. My participation started to wane when my comment praising someone's spunk (spunky personality - which I liked!) was disappeared. I witnessed when the Dark Lord snorted (it seemed) that he "could do this all day!" (argue incessantly with frequent reference to his Loser's Debate Manual, something like that. And then a moderator made him disappear. Hehehe. Stupid stuff. (I've met both that mod and the Dark Lord, so they aren't just pixels on a screen. Still, rollicking good time!)
I don't have a point, really. I'm grateful for FPN, cos I met probably hundreds of people and enjoyed thousands more conversations because of it. I witnessed a few of the instances when folks were arbitrarily banned with no explanation, so I understand the resentment. At least one person was banned - a gentle character who had been only ever helpful and non-confrontational - for asking a question about clarifying some new rules.
Pen Posse was rooted in FPN, cos that's where I kept posting about meetings until it became... established. So, I'm not going to wish FPN bad luck.
My position about posting on the Internet is this (I think it's a Chinese parable, not sure): "If someone calls you a dog, check to see if you have a tail. If you don't, everything is fine."
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To Miasto
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I can understand ( and support) dislike or disgust, but fear? What is there to be afraid of? Is an FPG thug going to jump down the phone-line?
I've enjoyed our discussion, TSHerbs, but it isn't going anywhere. You're making a case for a moderator here but convincing the members won't help. It will only happen if the owner of the forum decides to make it happen.
I like the forum the way it is. I wouldn't mind a moderator if he was of the quality of Ron Zorn, who only intervenes in the most extreme of circumstances and only contributes to give the most excellent of advice, but moderators of his quality are rare indeed.
Bisquitlips (November 22nd, 2020), Pterodactylus (November 22nd, 2020)
Ok, here's a charming development. I'll discuss it right here in this thread, where I've now noticed it, since we don't have any mods:
I've just logged in, checked this thread, and see every post I've looked at has received "Thanks" from a member who just joined the forum: FuckJohnSzanto.
I mean, seriously - what am I, or anyone, to make of this? As Ether just suggested, I took a look and I don't have a tail. I don't really have any idea why someone would do this, as I don't believe it is warranted, but there you go. It's 2020, alright.
I'll take a day or two off of the forum and see if anything changes. Have a good day, friends.
"When Men differ in Opinion, both Sides ought equally to have the Advantage of being heard by the Publick;
and that when Truth and Error have fair Play, the former is always an overmatch for the latter."
~ Benjamin Franklin
I do too, now, having come to better understand over the last few years some very unfamiliar experiences and perspectives shared with me.
I am finding that truly listening to others for the sake of gaining understanding is the best way to span the chasms of difference and distrust that can grow between people.
TSherbs (November 22nd, 2020)
Yeah, sorry, Jon. Same old crap circling around. Can someone with some pull get this taken care of?
Bisquitlips (November 22nd, 2020)
Ethernautrix, I loved the quote (My position about posting on the Internet is this (I think it's a Chinese parable, not sure): "If someone calls you a dog, check to see if you have a tail. If you don't, everything is fine.") you offered. Thank you.
I suppose in the name of levity I should ask, do we all recognise that much of the last four or five pages has been a digression discussing the appropriateness of one's choice of language, and whether moderation is a good or bad thing?
So, returning to the topic, who wants to bet that FPN will be back up by mid-week, and who, like me, will continue to participate in both forums?
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@ASD: an important feature of that forum is that a person making a post which is moderated has the right (and a link) to discuss the event with the moderator privately. That has happened to me, where a post was mis-read, hidden, then after discussion restored to the thread. I have seen in other cases it can be a matter of changing a few words to change the tone without losing the thrust of that poster's point. It is a good point between under and over moderation, without lumbering the mods with extensive or public debate on decisions.
A Smug Dill (November 22nd, 2020), Jon Szanto (November 22nd, 2020), TSherbs (November 23rd, 2020)
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I like each forum, mainly because of the people whose posts I find. Interesting and thoughtful ideas.
As a retired database administrator and system administrator, I am feeling some concern about the length of time FPN is down, but then I worked for a city government and had a lot of pressure on me to not be down at all. Also, systems accessed through the web have vulnerabilities and the pressure to get it back up might be different.
Now, another, unrelated forum has been down since this morning, and I'm getting the same sort of messages I see for FPN, like a log-in screen and all sorts of other stuff....don't think they have the same server OR software.
My other pen is a Montblanc.
And my other blog is a tumblr!
And my latest ebook, for spooky wintery reading:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0CM2NGSSD
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