I think so, given you avoid the "politics, religion, and society" subforum like the plague. I successfully avoided it for years and I regret ever posting there. I participate across many forums and this one is probably one of the best I know of.
I think so, given you avoid the "politics, religion, and society" subforum like the plague. I successfully avoided it for years and I regret ever posting there. I participate across many forums and this one is probably one of the best I know of.
Been there, done that, with the member in question too.
Fred’s post is correct.
"A truth does not mind being questioned. A lie does not like being challenged."
M: I came here for a good argument.
A: No you didn't; no, you came here for an argument.
M: An argument isn't just contradiction.
A: It can be.
M: No it can't. An argument is a connected series of statements intended to establish a proposition.
A: No it isn't.
M: Yes it is! It's not just contradiction.
A: Look, if I argue with you, I must take up a contrary position.
M: Yes, but that's not just saying 'No it isn't.'
A: Yes it is!
M: No it isn't!
I didn't assert that it was universally correct.
"A truth does not mind being questioned. A lie does not like being challenged."
As a reminder, I will note that the OP wrote more generally about this forum and the behavior over all. The degree that we continue to focus on one member perhaps highlights our reluctance to look in a mirror and improve the quality of our own interactions. Christof wrote more generally about the dynamics here. I accept my role in this, and, as I say, I am making steps to avoid similar patterns in the future.
M: I came here for a good argument.
A: No you didn't; no, you came here for an argument.
M: An argument isn't just contradiction.
A: It can be.
M: No it can't. An argument is a connected series of statements intended to establish a proposition.
A: No it isn't.
M: Yes it is! It's not just contradiction.
A: Look, if I argue with you, I must take up a contrary position.
M: Yes, but that's not just saying 'No it isn't.'
A: Yes it is!
M: No it isn't!
@Lloyd: I am awed and inspired by your very obvious and genuine compassion. I do not know what you do, but you surely come across as an accomplished professional who has much experience in matters such as these.
I also want to agree, 100%, that there is not going to be anything which is "universally correct" in this matter.
But, I have to say that I, too, think that Fred’s post is correct. Even when dealing with needy humans, there comes a time when enough is enough. It's a matter of knowing "when to say when" and in this instance, personally, I think we are there. Some personalities simply cannot be rehabilitated and, indeed, some are actually fueled by the efforts of those kind spirits who keep trying to do so.
I do not anticipate you will agree...and that's fine...... but I do hope you understand this point of view.
I also agree that the OP's intent with this thread was about more than just this one individual. That is an important point which was already made by another.
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eachan (May 14th, 2022), Sailor Kenshin (May 13th, 2022)
Thanks for the complement. By interacting through PM with EoC, and seeing his positive and negative posts on the forum, I think that, while he may have needed more support, he was a very valuable member who was trying to be a positive spark here. As for the op's query, I think it goes way beyond EoC, or at least should. There are many here who are quick to point the finger at others but refuse to look in a mirror.
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M: I came here for a good argument.
A: No you didn't; no, you came here for an argument.
M: An argument isn't just contradiction.
A: It can be.
M: No it can't. An argument is a connected series of statements intended to establish a proposition.
A: No it isn't.
M: Yes it is! It's not just contradiction.
A: Look, if I argue with you, I must take up a contrary position.
M: Yes, but that's not just saying 'No it isn't.'
A: Yes it is!
M: No it isn't!
Lloyd (May 13th, 2022)
We don't have to play out your Monty Python signature. You can have your experience and opinion, and I can have mine.
I have on two occasions had conversations with the member in question, along the lines of what you describe; which is why I quoted you.
My personal experience is that Fred's hypothesis is correct. My personal observations are that Fred's hypothesis is correct.
"A truth does not mind being questioned. A lie does not like being challenged."
Chrissy (May 27th, 2022)
Thank you, dneal, for making it a subjective comment. I can believe your two attempts failed with EoC. However, perhaps it was the tone as read that he misunderstood. He may have painted an image of you, realistic or not, that he biased your writing by. Perhaps if you didn't come across in some posts the way you do, he'd be more open to your support. It's just a theory, but it's worth wondering if we are trying to dominate or be peers.
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M: I came here for a good argument.
A: No you didn't; no, you came here for an argument.
M: An argument isn't just contradiction.
A: It can be.
M: No it can't. An argument is a connected series of statements intended to establish a proposition.
A: No it isn't.
M: Yes it is! It's not just contradiction.
A: Look, if I argue with you, I must take up a contrary position.
M: Yes, but that's not just saying 'No it isn't.'
A: Yes it is!
M: No it isn't!
Oops
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Lloyd (May 13th, 2022)
Your speculation on the motives and minds of two individuals' personal conversations you were not part of are unnecessary, at best. I don’t know what set him off this last time. I saw the spat with Jon. I saw the “you can’t go home” thread. Once the P51 thread got contentious, I offered words of concern and compassion. I deleted them and went full drill sergeant when he started with the PIF business. I give him a lot more leeway than others, for the reasons you mention; and because he does start novel threads in an otherwise slow forum - but the PIF thing went to far, for me.
Fred could have posted that same comment years ago, and I would agree then too. I remember his previous screen name, I remember when he referred to his recent name in 3rd person. I remember many occasions when he “threatened” to leave. I have poked him for that and his eccentricities, but I have accepted them too. I have no problem acknowledging I can be abrasive, and why. I can also be compassionate and supportive, despite my agreement with Fred’s assessment.
Do I want EoC to leave? Not really. I find this forum a pleasant place to visit, to address the OP. I also understand human personality and behavior falls across a spectrum, as do the nature(s?) of internet forums. This one, without moderation, is a bit like a playground. We kids will have our spats, form cliques, and apply peer pressure and even bully to moderate group behavior. We will also offer advice, kindness and generosity. I’m ok with that, and all that does or doesn’t come with it.
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"A truth does not mind being questioned. A lie does not like being challenged."
Chrissy (May 27th, 2022)
At what point does this conversation become an example of what is meant by the expression 'flogging a dead horse'?
TSherbs (May 13th, 2022)
It doesn't have to be flogging at all.
Lloyd (May 13th, 2022)
dneal, with all due respect, my view of your posts differs greatly from yours. I read the full P51 thread (EoC saved it and shared it) and your words could not be justified. I wish you would read more of your own posts as thoroughly, and as much in an attempt to use it against someone else, as you do to other's posts.
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M: I came here for a good argument.
A: No you didn't; no, you came here for an argument.
M: An argument isn't just contradiction.
A: It can be.
M: No it can't. An argument is a connected series of statements intended to establish a proposition.
A: No it isn't.
M: Yes it is! It's not just contradiction.
A: Look, if I argue with you, I must take up a contrary position.
M: Yes, but that's not just saying 'No it isn't.'
A: Yes it is!
M: No it isn't!
M: I came here for a good argument.
A: No you didn't; no, you came here for an argument.
M: An argument isn't just contradiction.
A: It can be.
M: No it can't. An argument is a connected series of statements intended to establish a proposition.
A: No it isn't.
M: Yes it is! It's not just contradiction.
A: Look, if I argue with you, I must take up a contrary position.
M: Yes, but that's not just saying 'No it isn't.'
A: Yes it is!
M: No it isn't!
I am very cognizant of what I post, and why. I'm well aware this medium is prone to misunderstanding. Expletives are not, which is why I use them when I choose. I make no apologies for it. EoC is entitled to his perspective, and so are you.
Perhaps you would do well to heed your own advice. Your posts now appear to me to be petty and bickering - your Monty Python argument. I'm done playing with that. There is much you seemingly are not aware of, and certainly much you are not privy to.
"A truth does not mind being questioned. A lie does not like being challenged."
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